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Burnout or Misalignment? 3 Ways to Tell the Difference

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If a proper break would fix it, it’s probably burnout. If the dread is waiting for you when you get back, it may be something else.

Several years ago, I thought I was burnt out. I was coaching six and a half to seven days a week, running the business and training our coaches. I still loved coaching, but a heaviness had settled in that I couldn’t shake.

Then someone well known in the industry offered to partner with us and expand our singing school. On paper, it was exactly the change I’d been waiting for. When I saw what it would actually mean, something dropped in the pit of my stomach. I wasn’t only exhausted. The life I was building no longer felt like mine.

This post is about telling those two things apart, without needing months off to do it.

Burnout vs. misalignment: what’s the difference?

Burnout is mostly about depletion. You’ve given more than you had for too long. Real rest usually helps, and you come back with energy for work you still care about.

Misalignment is about direction. The work, or the shape it has taken, no longer fits who you are or what you want. Rest doesn’t fix that, because the problem was never how hard you’d been working.

The clearest sign is what happens after a real break. If you come back and the dread returns almost straight away, that’s telling you something. But most of us can’t take an extended break just to find out, so below are three experiments you can try this week instead.

Why “I’m burnt out” is the easier thing to say

Sometimes burnout is exactly the right word. But sometimes it’s simply easier to say than the alternative.

“I’m burnt out” implies: I’ve worked hard, I’ve given everything, and I deserve a break. That’s a normal thing to say now.

“I think I’ve created a life that isn’t right for me” carries far more weight. Did I waste the last 15 years? Am I ungrateful for even thinking this? What’s the point, when I have too many responsibilities to quit?

But you can be grateful for what you have and honest with yourself at the same time. You can be realistic about your responsibilities and still look for a more sustainable way to carry them. Not asking the question doesn’t make it go away. If you’re going through the motions, doing things because you should rather than because you want to, those feelings keep resurfacing.

High achievers and “performance mode”

I kept going because people were relying on me. I wasn’t sleeping well, I was getting sick all the time, and I had physical symptoms doctors couldn’t find a solution for. Nobody knew. I could have a panic attack and, ten minutes later, walk into a class like it was any other Tuesday. I grew up as a performer: the show goes on.

Many of the successful, respected people I work with now recognise this. They mostly enjoy the work, but they’ve stopped feeling lit up by it, and they’re skilled at hiding that.

An important note: if you’re struggling mentally, emotionally or physically, please seek professional help. I’m very glad I did. The experiments below are not a substitute for that support.

Three experiments to hear your own answer

All you need is your voice, your phone, and someone you trust. Each experiment involves speaking out loud and noticing what happens.

Here’s why. After 18 years of listening to people’s voices, one thing I’ve learned is that the voice often tells the truth before the mind is ready to admit it. We can talk ourselves into, or out of, almost anything in our heads. It’s much harder to ignore something once you’ve heard yourself say it.

Experiment 1: Say it out loud to someone

Choose someone close to you: a partner, sibling, mentor, coach or good friend. Tell them: “I’m doing an experiment. Tell me what you notice when I say these two sentences out loud.”

Then say:

  1. “I’m really burnt out.”
  2. “I don’t think the life I’ve created is actually for me.”

Afterwards, ask yourself how you felt after each one. Which came out easily? Which felt uncomfortable but probably true?

Why another person? Saying something to someone who is actually listening raises the stakes. Framing it as an experiment lets you feel the weight of each sentence without managing their reaction.

Experiment 2: The two-minute recording

You can do this one on your own, right now. Open the voice recorder on your phone, set a two-minute timer, and talk without stopping about everything you genuinely love about your job or business.

Then play it back and notice:

  • Are you searching for things to say? Lots of “ums,” “uhs” or long pauses?
  • Do you slip into the past tense, as in “I used to enjoy this part”?
  • Are you describing the perks rather than the work itself? “The benefits are great. I get to travel. I have a good title. People are nice.”

When you’re burnt out but still aligned with your work, the things that light you up usually come easily. When you’re misaligned, it tends to feel like pulling teeth.

Experiment 3: Picture the next step up

Most careers and businesses have a natural next step: a promotion, a partnership, a bigger role, an expansion. Finish this sentence out loud:

“The next natural step in my career would be…“

Then take a moment to picture yourself already there, doing that work. Does it feel like something you should want, or something you’re actually pulled toward?

If you’re burnt out, that next step usually still draws you. You’re tired, but you still want to get there. If picturing it feels like more responsibility you don’t want to carry, or it fills you with dread, a break may not be all you need. You may need a change in the path you’re on.

That’s what happened to me. When the best partnership offer arrived, I was excited at first. Then I saw the details: I’d still be designing the curriculum, training the coaches and teaching a full load, only now I’d also answer to a major investor. That was the drop in my stomach. I didn’t want to stop coaching. I wanted a different version of what I was doing.

What to do with your answer (it doesn’t have to be all or nothing)

If an experiment tells you something you’re not ready to explore yet, that’s okay. You don’t have to act immediately. Change is rarely as simple as it sounds.

When I first suspected I was misaligned as well as burnt out, I asked a follow-up question: What’s one step I could take that still lets me keep my commitments but gives me some agency?

For me, that was a business mentorship program. On the surface, almost nothing changed. What changed was my thinking. Instead of “This isn’t how I want to live, but I have no choice,” I started asking, “How would I want to live, and what choices are available to me?”

Two years later, when that offer landed and my gut said “this isn’t right,” I didn’t ignore it. It became a turning point, and in the years that followed I made some of the most meaningful changes of my life. I tell the full story in my book, The Empowered Voice.

You don’t have to ask this question alone

This conversation is much easier with people who are asking themselves the same questions. That’s why I’m building the Resonant Collective, a community for people who’ve built a successful life and are starting to ask, “What’s next?” I want it shaped by the people it’s for, so I’m opening my schedule for 15-minute conversations. It isn’t a sales call, and I won’t pitch you anything. I want to hear what you’re navigating and what would help at this stage of your life.

Book a 15-minute conversation →

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EPISODE CHAPTERS

  • 00:00 Burnt out, or living a life that isn’t yours?
  • 01:08 The short answer: does a break fix it?
  • 01:58 When the dread won’t lift
  • 02:52 Why “I’m burnt out” is easier to say
  • 04:22 Performance mode: when nobody knows
  • 05:07 Please seek support first
  • 05:37 Why your voice tells the truth first
  • 06:36 Experiment 1: Say it out loud to someone
  • 07:51 Experiment 2: The two-minute recording
  • 08:56 Experiment 3: Picture the next step up
  • 10:13 The partnership offer that made my stomach drop
  • 11:03 What if the answer surprises you?
  • 11:38 One step that gives you agency
  • 12:58 The gut feeling I didn’t ignore
  • 13:37 Try one experiment this week
  • 13:52 You don’t have to do this alone

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